Ready to switch from “I should” to “I want”?
Unlock your emotional-based goals and feel good about drinking less.
“You should just drink less.”
Ever heard that?
Friends and family mean well.
But it's often easier said than done.
Maybe you’ve already given it a try:
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“I will stop after 2 drinks.”
“I will only drink over the weekend.”
Or, “I will never drink again.”
The Pitfall of Behavioral Goals
Those goals sound good, but there's one problem:
They can feel like chores you didn’t sign up for.
You know you should do them, but you don't always want to.
I get it. I've been there.
I call these "Behavioral-Based Goals."
I remember counting every sip at social events, feeling more like a referee than a guest.
Behavioral-based goals focus on changing behaviors.
They are easy to track; they tell you exactly what to do or not do.
But they can often feel empty and soulless.
The Missing Link: Emotional Drive
Humans are emotionally driven creatures.
We're motivated by how we want to feel, not just what we need to do.
We go to work each day for security.
We exercise regularly to feel strong.
And we plan vacations to experience relaxation.
We all do things because of how we want to feel.
That's why focusing solely on behavior can feel like an endless battle.
My Own "Aha" Moment
In my own sobriety journey, I, too, struggled with goals like 'don't drink.'
It felt like a never-ending battle, and I was never fully on board.
Until I switched to Emotional-Based Goals.
It was like finally finding the right key to a lock I'd been struggling with.
Suddenly, saying 'No, thank you' to a drink didn't feel like a chore;
it felt empowering and true to myself.
Your Next Step: From Obligation to Freedom
Let’s forget the goal of “not drinking" for a second.
It might feel like giving yourself a free pass.
But here is the deal:
Once you get in touch with how you want to feel, what you do will follow.
